I was one of those crazy students who LOVED to learn. I loved school – it probably doesn’t surprise you that I loved raising my hand and asking endless questions. I was in search – search of knowledge and I couldn’t get it fast enough. I yearned for a quick understanding of every subject and when it didn’t come easily, I was frustrated and disheartened. I wanted to know it all – not be a know-it-all.
The shift from child to adult
Somewhere along the way, we become adults. Becoming smart isn’t an automatic and gaining experience is a time-sucking drain. But necessary, nonetheless. I started babysitting at ten years old and took in ironing and sewing at twelve. Hard work becomes me. It is just part of my nature and it was certainly nurtured – my mother made sure of that.
Yep, I was bossy
I don’t think it is a bad thing – I am good at being bossy, I get things done and so do the people around me. I had two younger brothers and one younger sister. I babysat them and usually told them what to do, I bossed them around. I think there is confusion and a misunderstanding that being bossy is the same as being arrogant. It is not. It means being the boss. Seems pretty simple, and yet, it is not…
“I’ve always been bossy.” – Shirley Temple — me too, Shirley, me too.
We don’t call men bossy – we call them authoritative or leaders. Why is that? I am ready for a shift in thinking and believe me, it’ll happen.
I have at least thirty leadership books on my shelves. I have attended classes, workshops, and sessions regarding leadership training. All in an effort to expand my mind and increase my understanding of what it means to be a leader. I have selected mentors to follow. Some have belittled or berated me in front of others – from them, I have learned the most: How NOT to lead. So, while those instances might have been momentarily embarrassing, they were my greatest lessons. Lessons of the heart which impacted the mind.
4 Ways to Continually Develop Leadership Skills
1. What you see is what you get. I am the authentic me and that works for me me and what I hope and strive to achieve in this life. So, be authentic.
2. Find the better way. This means continually learning, continuously improving – I will forever be a perpetual student.
3. Recognize, Concern, and Thank. There is no greater way to encourage nd increase loyalty and devotion than to recognize, care, and thank those who work hard and provide value. It’s all about empowering and inspiring.
4. Listen. Do I really need to explain this one?
One of my greatest lessons during The Telios Experience was when I learned to look past what I know – that there is a definitive and never-ending need to strain and see more…
“We don’t see things as they are – we see things as we are.” – Anais Nin, author
Strength for More
I am not done. There is still plenty of learning left for me. The older I get, the more I appreciate the lessons. I see my strengths as super human powers – to be used for good. My tenacity has saved many a project. My strategic mind has read situations and protected me from joblessness. My nurturing nature has kept loneliness at bay. And my ability to work hard has allowed me to gain worthwhile and work-affirming experiences. And of course, provided countless stories waiting to be told.
My legacy is waiting for me – that means I am not there yet. Yet. But it feels pretty darn good to know that I am on my way.
<and it’s ok to be bossy, it’s how things get done…>
Part 1. On Growing Whole – Create Your Legacy Now
Part 2. Evoking Excellence in Your Downhill Slide
Part 3. Strength in Purpose: Becoming My True Age
Part 4: Hunger for Experience and Thirst for Wisdom